NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” Paulo Coelho

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health. It creates a blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. Some memories will be positive and some will be difficult and challenging.

What is the Inner Child?

Your inner child is that part of you that for whatever reason maybe didn’t have their needs met as a child.

When we have a strong emotional reaction to something we’re reacting to the present moment because of our past and it’s often your inner child that’s been triggered.

For example, let’s say your boss criticises you for a project you worked really hard on and you feel flooded with emotion - this may be triggering your inner child and your limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’.

You may be able to access some core memories to help understand your emotional reactions but most will be completely unconscious.

“Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future”

No parent is perfect, even the most loving parents make mistakes and of course childhood can be tough in many ways. Nurturing your inner child is a powerful way to bring inner peace to your internal world and give your mental health the boost it needs.

Tapping is a great place to start. Watch the video above to start the healing process.

HOW DO YOU CONNECT TO YOUR INNER CHILD?

"By reparenting our Inner Child, we can release and heal the pain from the past" Margaret Paul

If you’re not sure what your inner child is feeling today, follow this process:

Step 1: Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then visualise yourself as a little child sat in front of you. Notice what they're wearing, and what they look like.

Step 2: Ask that little child how they're feeling today and notice what they say.

Step 3: Open your eyes and in your dominant hand write down the question - how are you feeling today?

Step 4: Put the pen in your non dominant hand and write the answer. Notice what comes up.

Step 5: Put the pen back into your dominant hand and write down these words - I am here for you now, you are safe, you are loved.

If you're still not sure what your inner child is feeling you can gently ask yourself these questions.

* Did I feel heard as a child? Did I feel like my parents / caregivers listening to what I had to say? Or did I feel dismissed?

* As a child did I feel seen? Or did I feel ignored?

* Were my emotions always validated? Or was I shamed for expressing how I felt?

* Was it ok to be sad, angry, scared, frustrated.... as a child? Was it safe to express my emotions?

* Did I feel safe as a child? (Emotionally and physically)

* Did I feel loved by my parents?

* Was the love unconditional or was it based on outside factors? (e.g achievements or things I did?)

* Did I feel like I had to prove my worth? (with grades, achievements, being a good girl/ boy, acting a certain way, behaving in a certain manner)

* Was I ever made to feel like I wasn’t good enough?

* Did I ever feel abandoned?

* Did I ever feel shamed, criticised or judged?

* Was I ever hurt (emotionally and physically)?

Or you can try listening to the Inner Child Guided Meditation Below

AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUR INNER CHILD

Speaking directly to your inner child through meditation, journalling, tapping or any other means is a powerful way to make them feel seen, heard and validated. What do they need to hear today?

• I hear you

• I see you

• All of your emotions are valid

• You are safe

• Your are loved

• You are loving

• You are loveable

• You are enough just the way you are

• You are XXX (use the affirmation that is the opposite of your limiting belief e.g good enough, beautiful, wonderful, clever, strong, funny, kind, whole, good, talented, loved...)

• I am here for you now, you are never alone

• You don't need to be perfect you are human

• It’s ok to make mistakes

Inner Child Support

For more support nurturing your Inner Child please get in touch kim@hapyheads.me and check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme I would love to hear from you.

You can also download the Tapping Solution App where I have a 4 Day Inner Child Healing Series. It’s the perfect opportunity to help you reconnect to your inner child. It will enable you to communicate with them, hear what they have to say, gain insight into their limiting beliefs and deeply nourish them in the process. Your inner child really does hold the key to reducing anxiety, overcoming your limiting beliefs, releasing self doubt, overcoming fear and so much more.

5 MIN TAPPING FOR BURNOUT

We live in such a busy world, where people feel like they need to be switched on 24/7 so it’s no surprise that more people are feeling burnt out than ever. Anytime you feel stressed or anxious your nervous system goes into high alert. In short doses this is fine but when you’re being continually triggered with choric stress (which is what Burnout is) your nervous system can’t cope and your brain quite literally can’t function properly.

Are you feeling burnt out today?

Tapping is the perfect way to quickly bring your frazzled nervous system back into balance and prevent full burnout. It doesn’t take long to take yourself out of that fight / flight response so take 5 minutes now and see how you feel.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me or check out the Happy Heads Burnout Programme I would love to hear from you xx

Would you like Happy Heads in your Workplace?

After suffering complete burnout 8 years ago now I was forced to find ways to transform my mind. Meditation and Tapping helped me to do exactly that and overcoming burnout was actually one of the reasons I started Happy Heads. It’s also why I’m so passionate about teaching in companies because I know how stressful corporate life can be.

The workshopsand talks I run cover a wide variety of topics including:

* Prevent Burnout 

* Befriend Your Inner Critic 

* Reduce Stress & Anxiety

* Manifest The Life You Want

* Emotional Resilience

* Calm Your Nervous System 

* Improve Sleep

* Overcome Limiting Beliefs

* Leadership Team Support (various topics)

* Improve Focus 

* Resilience Toolkit 

* Grief Support 

* Pregnancy Birth & Beyond

* Refresh Your Energy

I specialise in teaching children and families so as well as being a mum of two, supporting parents (especially working mums) is something that I’m really passionate about.

The workshops I run cover:

* Parent & Child Wellbeing

* Teen Wellness 

* Teaching Children Meditation 

* Mindful Parenting    

There are many company testimonials you can check out HERE.

If you are interested in adding some wellbeing into your workplace please get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

TAPPING ON THE FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING

The fear of public speaking is something that many people struggle with so if it fills you with anxiety then you are not alone. I used to have a chronic fear of speaking in public until I discovered tapping, which is lucky as I now teach and talk in front of big groups regularly!

Contrary to what your brain might think, you don't need to completely eradicate the fear because it's a normal part of speaking in public BUT you don't want fear to ever hold you back from also feeling calm and grounded when you do.

Tapping is the perfect way to reduce your fear and start to rewire your mind to think differently. The affirmation I AM EXCITED is a great way to actually trick your mind because the feeling of anxiety is physiologically almost the same as the feeling of excitement (racing heart, palms sweaty, butterflies in stomach…).I have used this many times before running workshops to big audiences and it always helps me calm my mind,

Another great way to overcome the fear of public speaking is identify what lies behind your fear. So for me it wasn’t the public speaking itself it was the fear of saying something wrong and the fear of being judged. Once I worked on those limiting beliefs and processed their core route memories - my confidence was transformed.

If you would like to explore your fear of public speaking more deeply then please do get in touch Kim@happyheads.me I would love to help.

I hope you enjoy this one, I know you can do it, let me know how it goes :)

Big Love

Kim x

MALE MENTAL HEALTH

I was so honoured to be invited by @lovebrotherworld to see a special screening at the House of Lords of this very powerful film called The Men and The Chair Outside of My Window directed by the brilliant @nickaldridge

The film highlights male mental health, which is something I am deeply passionate about. My dad killed himself when I was 7 years old so I’ve lived with suicide my whole life. The impact of male mental health has literally shaped my life.

Suicide is something that is still very sadly prevalent and in 2022 in England alone, 5284 men took their own life. Men are 3 times more likely to kill themselves than women and this crisis needs to stop.

I witnessed three incredible men @bobjo_nes @coughcool86 @nickaldridge talk openly about their own mental health while introducing this film and that’s the first time I’ve ever witnessed such a conversation (and I’m 40). It’s these kind of conversations that we NEED to keep having to help overcome the stigma of a man talking about his mental health.

Talking about mental health should be no different to discussing physical health - it effects everyone. If more men feel like they can speak out and reach out, not only when they are struggling but in the every day ups and down of life we can greatly reduce the number of suicides each year.

Please take time to watch this video and share with those around you. If you yourself are struggling call 116 123 now for support, visit Samaritans or get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

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TAPPING TO STOP RUMINATING OVER THE PAST

Rumination is when your minds get stuck on certain thoughts, usually negative ones. It's like a broken record in your mind that won't stop playing. When we ruminate over the past we keep replaying certain events, worrying about things we said, overthinking our actions and wishing their was a different outcome. This can easily make you feel overwhelmed, anxious and has a detrimental impact on your mental health.

This is because it's a completed wasted energy - we can't change the past! What we can do though is anchor our minds in the present moment and tapping is a great way to do that and stop the rumination.