HOW DO YOU CONNECT TO YOUR INNER CHILD?
"By reparenting our Inner Child, we can release and heal the pain from the past" Margaret Paul
If you’re not sure what your inner child is feeling today, follow this process:
Step 1: Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then visualise yourself as a little child sat in front of you. Notice what they're wearing, and what they look like.
Step 2: Ask that little child how they're feeling today and notice what they say.
Step 3: Open your eyes and in your dominant hand write down the question - how are you feeling today?
Step 4: Put the pen in your non dominant hand and write the answer. Notice what comes up.
Step 5: Put the pen back into your dominant hand and write down these words - I am here for you now, you are safe, you are loved.
If you're still not sure what your inner child is feeling you can gently ask yourself these questions.
* Did I feel heard as a child? Did I feel like my parents / caregivers listening to what I had to say? Or did I feel dismissed?
* As a child did I feel seen? Or did I feel ignored?
* Were my emotions always validated? Or was I shamed for expressing how I felt?
* Was it ok to be sad, angry, scared, frustrated.... as a child? Was it safe to express my emotions?
* Did I feel safe as a child? (Emotionally and physically)
* Did I feel loved by my parents?
* Was the love unconditional or was it based on outside factors? (e.g achievements or things I did?)
* Did I feel like I had to prove my worth? (with grades, achievements, being a good girl/ boy, acting a certain way, behaving in a certain manner)
* Was I ever made to feel like I wasn’t good enough?
* Did I ever feel abandoned?
* Did I ever feel shamed, criticised or judged?
* Was I ever hurt (emotionally and physically)?
Or you can try listening to the Inner Child Guided Meditation Below