Inner Strength

TAPPING TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING

Are you a people pleaser?

If you’re not sure whether you’re a people pleaser or not, answer the following questions and see how many you answer YES to.

  • Do you always put the needs of others ahead of your own?

  • Do you worry about what other people think?

  • Do you struggle to make decisions

  • Do you struggle to say no?

  • Do you find it hard to set boundaries?

  • Do you often adapt who you are to please others?

  • Do you avoid disagreeing with people or voicing your honest opinion?

  • Do you go along with things they you’re not happy about to avoid conflict?

  • Do you feel pressure to be friendly, nice, or cheerful at all times?

  • Do you feel anxious at the thought of standing up for yourself?

  • Do you feel people often take advantage of you?

A “people pleaser” personality means a person feels a strong urge to please others, even at their own expense. They may feel that their wants and needs do not matter or alter their personality around others.

Where does ‘people pleasing’ come from?

People pleasing is actually a highly adaptive way for a child to survive their childhood. For various different reasons the technique of ‘pleasing’ a parent or caregiver ensures the child gets their core needs met (food, love, affection, connection) or in more traumatic situations it might help limit pain and abuse. 

Carried into adulthood, people pleasing can actually be really damaging to your mental health and wellbeing.

Constantly putting the needs of others before your own, overthinking and assessing how other people feel or think is hugely draining for your nervous system for a number of reasons:



  • We can’t ever know what someone is thinking - it’s a wasted energy!


  • Overthinking creates anxiety and can put your nervous system into high alert


  • Ignoring your own needs increases stress levels


  • Putting your self worth in other peoples hands is like giving your power away


  • It makes it difficult to make decisions for yourself 


  • Constant external validation cultivates self doubt and low self worth 



Tapping is a great way to start reclaiming your power! Try this process now and rebuild your self worth once again.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

THESE 10 DAYS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Life isn't always easy. In fact, for most people, it involves a lot of stress and struggle on a daily basis. With finances, work, health, relationships, and a lot more. Most people are dealing with more stress, anxiety and overwhelm than they realise.

But it doesn't have to be this way.

Which is why I want to share what is probably the most transformational FREE online event that exists - The Tapping World Summit. I've been watching it for years gaining so many insights, inspiration and self healing and this year Jessica Ortner herself invited ME to be part of it (HUGE pinch me moment).

I had a wonderful conversation with Jessica about how we can use tapping to Nurture Our Inner Child and we also did some actual tapping that you can do to. Watching it will help you learn:

  • How to recognize when your adult reactions of today are actually manifestations of unresolved childhood experiences from the past.

  • How to address limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with self-compassion and self-acceptance (hint: Tapping can help!)

  • Self-care practices and affirmations to nurture your inner child and heal deep-seated emotional wounds.

There are 25 free presentations to watch, check out this page to learn more (click on the image below).

This isn't just an informational event also, it's an experience. Attendees don't just leave with ideas or theories on how to make their life better, they leave actually feeling better. They leave with less stress, anxiety, overwhelm, anger, sadness, and other negative emotions.

They leave having cleared limiting beliefs around money, health, relationships and more. They leave having cleared childhood traumas.They leave the event better than when they went in and YOU can be part of it.

It's been going on for 15 years, over 2.5 million people have attended this online event and it has a reputation for getting incredible results for anyone who watches it.

Trust me on this one... this technique and this event are truly amazing. Go here to learn more and sign up:

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Enjoy and make sure to let me know what you think of the event.  I hope you enjoy my interview :)

Big Love
Kim xx

TAPPING ON BEING BULLIED

Have you ever experienced bullying within the workplace? If you have, then you’re not alone. Recent studies show that 47% of UK workers have observed bullying at work and 1 in 10 people have experienced being bullied.

It’s something that can deeply impact your mental health, isn’t always obvious to spot and affects thousands of people every day. Unlike bullying at school which may be more overt, bullying within the workplace can be subtle with passive aggressive communication and gas lighting.

I experienced this myself 7 years ago and it’s not something I’ve ever spoken about. It had a huge impact on my mental health and the burnout it created took years to recover from.

You can listen to one of the things I experienced in the workplace with a female boss here:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CxItGLUoV-F/

Comments like this are deeply damaging to an employees mental health for a number of reasons:

1) it’s a personal attack on the employees personality and has nothing to do with their role .

2) They are using an umbrella term ‘everyone thinks’ rather than owning their personal opinion.

3) These types of comments are a form of emotional abuse, used to put a person down.

4) Language like this is used as a form of control in order to make a person feel small.

5) Statements like this don’t allow the person to really respond (what can you say to something like that) and is another way to assert control.

6) Derogatory comments in any form can negatively impact a persons self esteem.

It’s important to remember that while you control other people, you can always control how you react.

It may not feel like it at the time but you have a choice as to how much of someone’s toxic energy you take on.

Tapping is the perfect way to calm your nervous system and give that toxic energy back so watch the video above to help you nurture your mental health and process beeing bullied.

If you are going through it now, know that you are not alone. For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you.

Kim xx