NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” Paulo Coelho

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health. It creates a blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. Some memories will be positive and some will be difficult and challenging.

What is the Inner Child?

Your inner child is that part of you that for whatever reason maybe didn’t have their needs met as a child.

When we have a strong emotional reaction to something we’re reacting to the present moment because of our past and it’s often your inner child that’s been triggered.

For example, let’s say your boss criticises you for a project you worked really hard on and you feel flooded with emotion - this may be triggering your inner child and your limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’.

You may be able to access some core memories to help understand your emotional reactions but most will be completely unconscious.

“Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future”

No parent is perfect, even the most loving parents make mistakes and of course childhood can be tough in many ways. Nurturing your inner child is a powerful way to bring inner peace to your internal world and give your mental health the boost it needs.

Tapping is a great place to start. Watch the video above to start the healing process.

HOW DO YOU CONNECT TO YOUR INNER CHILD?

"By reparenting our Inner Child, we can release and heal the pain from the past" Margaret Paul

If you’re not sure what your inner child is feeling today, follow this process:

Step 1: Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then visualise yourself as a little child sat in front of you. Notice what they're wearing, and what they look like.

Step 2: Ask that little child how they're feeling today and notice what they say.

Step 3: Open your eyes and in your dominant hand write down the question - how are you feeling today?

Step 4: Put the pen in your non dominant hand and write the answer. Notice what comes up.

Step 5: Put the pen back into your dominant hand and write down these words - I am here for you now, you are safe, you are loved.

If you're still not sure what your inner child is feeling you can gently ask yourself these questions.

* Did I feel heard as a child? Did I feel like my parents / caregivers listening to what I had to say? Or did I feel dismissed?

* As a child did I feel seen? Or did I feel ignored?

* Were my emotions always validated? Or was I shamed for expressing how I felt?

* Was it ok to be sad, angry, scared, frustrated.... as a child? Was it safe to express my emotions?

* Did I feel safe as a child? (Emotionally and physically)

* Did I feel loved by my parents?

* Was the love unconditional or was it based on outside factors? (e.g achievements or things I did?)

* Did I feel like I had to prove my worth? (with grades, achievements, being a good girl/ boy, acting a certain way, behaving in a certain manner)

* Was I ever made to feel like I wasn’t good enough?

* Did I ever feel abandoned?

* Did I ever feel shamed, criticised or judged?

* Was I ever hurt (emotionally and physically)?

Or you can try listening to the Inner Child Guided Meditation Below

AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUR INNER CHILD

Speaking directly to your inner child through meditation, journalling, tapping or any other means is a powerful way to make them feel seen, heard and validated. What do they need to hear today?

• I hear you

• I see you

• All of your emotions are valid

• You are safe

• Your are loved

• You are loving

• You are loveable

• You are enough just the way you are

• You are XXX (use the affirmation that is the opposite of your limiting belief e.g good enough, beautiful, wonderful, clever, strong, funny, kind, whole, good, talented, loved...)

• I am here for you now, you are never alone

• You don't need to be perfect you are human

• It’s ok to make mistakes

Inner Child Support

For more support nurturing your Inner Child please get in touch kim@hapyheads.me and check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme I would love to hear from you.

You can also download the Tapping Solution App where I have a 4 Day Inner Child Healing Series. It’s the perfect opportunity to help you reconnect to your inner child. It will enable you to communicate with them, hear what they have to say, gain insight into their limiting beliefs and deeply nourish them in the process. Your inner child really does hold the key to reducing anxiety, overcoming your limiting beliefs, releasing self doubt, overcoming fear and so much more.

HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

Happy Heads Monthly Reset - Now Live!

A limiting belief is an UNTRUE belief of yourself that you believe is TRUE. It’s the negative chatter you find your brain defaulting to when you’re feeling exhausted, anxious, burnt out, overwhelmed, stressed or wanting to do something that feels out of your comfort zone.

Whether it’s I’m not good enough, I will fail, I never get it right, I’m not beautiful, I don’t deserve success, my voice isn’t important, I’m not clever….these are limiting beliefs that quite literally hold you back from being who you want to be in life.

The next Happy Heads Monthly Reset is now LIVE and is all about how you can overcome your limiting beliefs. In it you’ll get:

* Insight into what limiting beliefs are and where they come from
* Top tips on how to rewire your brain to think differently
* Tapping Process to overcome your limiting beliefs
* Loving Kindness meditation to rebuild your self compassion
* Chakra cleanse meditation to calm both body and mind

Click the link HERE to sign up now, it’s totally FREE and I don’t spam peole xx

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INNER CHILD HEALING SERIES

Check Me out In the tapping Solution App now!!

I am SO SO excited to announce that I am now part of the brilliant @thetappingsolution app. I regularly use the app myself because it has so many brilliant tapping meditations and series, so you can imagine how happy I was when they asked me to design an Inner Child Healing series for them. I am hugely proud of this series and I would love you to check it out. This four day series will help you deeply nurture your inner child, process your limiting beliefs and bring inner piece to your internal world.

All you have to do head to The Tapping Solution to download it now.

Thank you so much @jessicaortner @nickortner @alexortner.ts for letting me be part of your wonderful app xx

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Happy Heads - Private Sessions

Would you like a private session with Happy Heads? One to to one sessions are the perfect way to nurture your wellbeing and I always tailor the sessions to your own personal needs.

The sessions consists of breathing techniques, guided meditation, and a full round of Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping). Tapping is a powerful tool at helping you release negative tension held in both your body and mind. It’s the perfect partner to meditation as it helps your brain get to the core route of a problem and takes the emotional / negative charge away from it.

I always provide a full support document after the session and a meditation recording / tapping video for you to use. The sessions are 1hr 30mins and over Zoom.

If you really want to give your mental health a reset and you’re looking for something longer term I have a selection of brilliant programmes for you to choose from:
•Happy Heads Wellbeing Programme
•Happy Heads Burnout Programme
•Nurture Your Inner Child
•Pregnancy, Birth & Beyond
•Happy Heads Grief Support

I always offer a FREE 20 minute consultation call so if you’re interested please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you xx

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MALE MENTAL HEALTH

I was so honoured to be invited by @lovebrotherworld to see a special screening at the House of Lords of this very powerful film called The Men and The Chair Outside of My Window directed by the brilliant @nickaldridge

The film highlights male mental health, which is something I am deeply passionate about. My dad killed himself when I was 7 years old so I’ve lived with suicide my whole life. The impact of male mental health has literally shaped my life.

Suicide is something that is still very sadly prevalent and in 2022 in England alone, 5284 men took their own life. Men are 3 times more likely to kill themselves than women and this crisis needs to stop.

I witnessed three incredible men @bobjo_nes @coughcool86 @nickaldridge talk openly about their own mental health while introducing this film and that’s the first time I’ve ever witnessed such a conversation (and I’m 40). It’s these kind of conversations that we NEED to keep having to help overcome the stigma of a man talking about his mental health.

Talking about mental health should be no different to discussing physical health - it effects everyone. If more men feel like they can speak out and reach out, not only when they are struggling but in the every day ups and down of life we can greatly reduce the number of suicides each year.

Please take time to watch this video and share with those around you. If you yourself are struggling call 116 123 now for support, visit Samaritans or get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

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NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

INTERVIEW NOW LIVE!

My Interview as part of the Tapping World Summit is now LIVE and you can watch it HERE. It's live and FREE for the next 16hrs but after that you can buy the summit and own it for life.

I had a wonderful conversation with Jessica Ortner about how we can use tapping to Nuture Your Inner Child and we also did some actual tapping that you can do too. Watching it will help you learn:

• How to recognize when your adult reactions of today are actually manifestations of unresolved childhood experiences from the past.

• How to address limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with self-compassion and self-acceptance (hint: Tapping can help!)

• Self-care practices and affirmations to nurture your inner child and heal deep-seated emotional wounds.

I hope you enjoy the interview and if you did like it you may want to check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme.

Big Love
Kim xx

THESE 10 DAYS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Life isn't always easy. In fact, for most people, it involves a lot of stress and struggle on a daily basis. With finances, work, health, relationships, and a lot more. Most people are dealing with more stress, anxiety and overwhelm than they realise.

But it doesn't have to be this way.

Which is why I want to share what is probably the most transformational FREE online event that exists - The Tapping World Summit. I've been watching it for years gaining so many insights, inspiration and self healing and this year Jessica Ortner herself invited ME to be part of it (HUGE pinch me moment).

I had a wonderful conversation with Jessica about how we can use tapping to Nurture Our Inner Child and we also did some actual tapping that you can do to. Watching it will help you learn:

• How to recognize when your adult reactions of today are actually manifestations of unresolved childhood experiences from the past.

• How to address limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with self-compassion and self-acceptance (hint: Tapping can help!)

• Self-care practices and affirmations to nurture your inner child and heal deep-seated emotional wounds.

There are 25 free presentations to watch, check out this page to learn more (click on the image below).

This isn't just an informational event also, it's an experience. Attendees don't just leave with ideas or theories on how to make their life better, they leave actually feeling better. They leave with less stress, anxiety, overwhelm, anger, sadness, and other negative emotions.

They leave having cleared limiting beliefs around money, health, relationships and more. They leave having cleared childhood traumas.They leave the event better than when they went in and YOU can be part of it.

It's been going on for 15 years, over 2.5 million people have attended this online event and it has a reputation for getting incredible results for anyone who watches it.

Trust me on this one... this technique and this event are truly amazing. Go here to learn more and sign up:

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Enjoy and make sure to let me know what you think of the event.  I hope you enjoy my interview :)

Big Love
Kim xx

FREE TAPPING MEDITATIONS

Hi Lovely People,

I have a really powerful free resource for you today, which I highly recommend you not only access immediately, but also download so that you can use it anytime you need it.

It's actually not just one resource... but three!  In these Tapping Meditations you'll get to follow along as my friend and New York Times best-selling author Jessica Ortner guides you through three calming and empowering processes.

The Tapping Meditations that you can access immediately are:

1 - Releasing Stress and Overwhelm
(Something that we can all use on a daily basis!)

2 - Moving from Anger to Peace
(An often misunderstood emotion that so many deal with!)

3 - Releasing Anxiety and Worry
(Anxiety is a much bigger challenge than people realise!)

Just go here to acess them now:

What's incredible about Tapping Meditations is that they not only help you to feel calm and balanced, they also help you to release deep core issues that you may be dealing with.

Enjoy these meditations.  I know they can be a great resource for you. 

Big Love
Kim x

P.S. - These meditations are being released as part of the lead up to an amazing event known as the Tapping World Summit.

The summit starts on February 26th and takes you through 10 days of free presentations (2 per day) where you get to learn from the world's leading Tapping experts on a variety of topics. I can't recommend this event enough, I've watched it for years and I still can't believe that they asked ME to be part of it this year!

THIS VIDEO COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE - and the science proves it!

Whether you're familiar with Tapping or just getting started, I’ve got a video to share with you today from my friend Alex Ortner that is a must watch. 

This 2nd video in their free video series gives you a glimpse into the groundbreaking research pouring into this this technique that can revolutionize your life. You’ll get to hear from top experts like Tony Robbins, Dr. Mark Hyman and Iyanla Vanzant, TV hosts like Hoda Kotb from the Today Show and Tamron Hall, and from every day users like you.

In this video you’ll witness firsthand why Tapping is taking the world by storm and how YOU can use it to revolutionize your routine and your life. 

The video goes deep on how you can use this technique to release stress and anxiety, improve sleep, reduce food cravings, relieve physical pain, resolve trauma, and much more…

In addition to the science, you’ll witness TRUE eye-opening stories of transformation you really have to see to believe… We're talking about real, tangible, life-altering changes from this simple technique, all backed by science.

Tapping is truly breaking down barriers, touching lives in ways we never imagined possible, and redefining what it means to find true wellbeing. So, are you ready to give it a try?

WATCH IT NOW xx

P.S. - The video is being released in the lead up to the 16th Annual Tapping World Summit. I highly reccommend registering as it's FREE and I’m VERY EXCITED to be part of it!!!

IS YOUR BRAIN HARD WIRED FOR NEGATIVE THINKING?

A lot of people really beat themselves up over "negative thinking."
          
It is, of course, true that in order to create the life we want today, changing our thinking to be more positive is extremely important and effective for reaching our goals.

But...

Did you know that negative thinking is actually hardwired into the brain, in one of the most ancient parts of it? And that it's there for a very important reason?

If you want to find out what this reason is, and how you can overcome it, I recommend watching a video just put out by my friend and New York Times bestselling author Nick Ortner that shares more about this primitive part of the brain, why it's not your fault if you think negatively, and what you can do about it.

He'll show you how you can use Tapping to literally rewire the neuropathways of the brain to create the life you want. He'll even take you through a simple yet powerful process with it that will have you instantly feeling better. You can check it out here:

Here's the reality about negative thinking...

It's hard-wired in our brain for a reason and not easy to overcome unless you have a technique or tool to overcome it. If you feel you get stuck in patterns of negative thinking, take a breath, and know that it's not your fault.

But know that there IS something you can do about it. With this simple video, you'll learn how to use EFT Tapping to get past this primitive part of the brain and remove the negative thinking, limiting beliefs and chronic negative emotions that stifle our ability to grow and create the life we want.

WATCH IT NOW

Enjoy!

Kim xx

P.S. - Nick is releasing this video as part of the lead up to his 16th Annual Tapping World Summit, which starts on February 26th and this year they asked me to be part of it, I'm still pinching myself!!!

This event has been attended by over 2.5 million people over the last 15 years.  It is a truly life-transforming event that you don't want to miss out on.

TAPPING TO STOP RUMINATING OVER THE PAST

Rumination is when your minds get stuck on certain thoughts, usually negative ones. It's like a broken record in your mind that won't stop playing. When we ruminate over the past we keep replaying certain events, worrying about things we said, overthinking our actions and wishing their was a different outcome. This can easily make you feel overwhelmed, anxious and has a detrimental impact on your mental health.

This is because it's a completed wasted energy - we can't change the past! What we can do though is anchor our minds in the present moment and tapping is a great way to do that and stop the rumination.

HAPPY HEADS - PRIVATE SESSIONS

We would never think twice about asking a fitness instructor to help us with our physical fitness so why do we ever question getting someone to help with our mental fitness? It's not your job to be an expert on how to look after your mind - that's what I do!

I help people of all ages look after their mental health and wellbeing and I take that role very seriously. I've been a trained Meditation Teacher and Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) Practitioner for nearly 8 years now and regularly do specific trauma training on the brain, the inner critic and how as humans our nervous systems react to stress, anxiety and trauma. I work with adults and also specialise in children and families. I bring a wealth of personal and professional experience into all that I do.

For a private session, I send out some pre questions first and then from that I tailor the session to your exact needs. The sessions consists of breathing techniques, guided meditation, and a full round of Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping). EFT is a powerful tool at helping you release negative tension held in both your body and mind. It’s the perfect partner to meditation as it helps your brain get to the core route of a problem and takes the emotional / negative charge away from it. 

I always provide a full support document after the session and a meditation recording / tapping video for you to use. The sessions are 1hr 30 mins, £135 and will be over Zoom.

If you really want to give your mental health a reset and you’re looking for something longer term I have the brilliant Happy Heads Wellbeing Programme. It’s been designed to completely transform your wellbeing over the course of 6 - 8 weeks and includes:

SILVER PACKAGE 

• 3 x 1-1 sessions (1.5hr each)

• Processing several big blocks in life that might be holding you back

• 1 x 20 min phone call 'wellbeing check-in'

• Several guided meditations to use across the programme

• Tapping and breathing videos to follow

• Daily practices to integrate into your own routine 

• Regular Whatsapp communication with me to ensure you feel fully supported throughout

Silver package is £390.

GOLD PACKAGE 

• 5 x 1-1 sessions (1.5hr each)

• Processing several big blocks in life that might be holding you back

• 2 x 20 min phone call 'wellbeing check-in'

• Several guided meditations to use across the programme

• Tapping and breathing videos to follow

• Daily practices to integrate into your own routine 

• Regular Whatsapp communication with me to ensure you feel fully supported throughout

Gold package is £650.

I’m flexible with days and times so just let me know what works for you and if you have any questions at all. I always offer a free 20 minute consultation call to see how best I can support you so please get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

I look forward to hearing from you :)

Take Care

Kim x

REFRESH YOUR ENERGY

Your body is filled with a very complex nervous system that is always trying to regulate itself. Many things can have an impact on your nervous system, depleting your energy and affecting how you feel, often without us consciously realising it (doom scrolling through instagram for example).

One of the first steps to refreshing your energy is to first identify what your ENERGY DRAINERS are. What are the things in life that make you feel depleted, low, sad or exhausted?

The next step is to identify your ENERGY GIVERS. These are the things in life that feed your soul, make your cup feel full, make you happy and give your energy a boost.

Take a moment now to look through the below lists and see what your ENERGY DRAINERS vs ENERGY GIVERS are. You can then start adjust yourself accordingly - doing less of the drainers and more of the givers.

ENERGY DRAINERS

1. Lack of Sleep

2. Too much screen time / being on your phone too much

3. Social media

4. The news

5. Feeling stressed or anxious

6. Overworking or burning out

7. People pleasing

8. Overthinking

9. Dehydration / not drinking enough water

10. Not eating enough / not nourishing your body

11. Eating too much junk food

12. Fear and self doubt

13. Ruminating over the past or overthinking the future

14. Spending too much time around: bullies, people you can’t be yourself  around, really negative people, people who are really judgemental, people who have a big ego, people who gossip a lot, complainers, people who expect  perfection, people who are abusive, people who are fake

15. Unprocessed anger, bitterness, or resentment

16. Not exercising or physically moving your body

17. Family

18. Fixating on your imperfections

19. Focussing on what you don't have

20. Wearing a mask / hiding or suppressing emotions

21. Comparing your life to others

22. Doing a job that you hate

What else drains your energy? Remember that we are all different. Only you will truly know what your ENERGY DRAINERS are. Write out your list and then you can see what things you need to do less of or what changes you may need to make.

ENERGY GIVERS

Energy Givers

1. Meditation

2. Good quality sleep / rest

3. Breathwork  / deep breaths

4. Nourishing food

5. Setting healthy boundaries with toxic people

6. Therapy – talking to people

7. Water / hydration

8. Being out in nature

9. Sunlight

10. Playing with my kids (parent specific)

11. Love and intimacy

12. Meaningful connections

13. Responding to your body’s needs/emotional needs

14. Tapping

15. Positive Affirmations

16. Learning something new

17. Cooking / Reading

18. Art / Being creative

19. Exercise / moving your body

20. Play! Doing something with no particular outcome - just for the fun of it.

21. Hot baths, massages

22. Watching movies that make you laugh

23. Dancing / listening to music that you love

24. Journaling

25. Doing a job you are passionate about

What else gives YOU energy? What feeds your soul and makes you happy? Write out a list and start to do more of the things in life that GIVE you energy.

Tapping is a great way to refresh your energy when you’re feeling a bit depleted because it physically brings your nervous system back into balance AND helps to rewire your brain to think differently. Watch this video now to see how easy it is to do.

For more support on nurturing your wellbeing please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you xx

TAPPING ON BEING BULLIED

Have you ever experienced bullying within the workplace? If you have, then you’re not alone. Recent studies show that 47% of UK workers have observed bullying at work and 1 in 10 people have experienced being bullied.

It’s something that can deeply impact your mental health, isn’t always obvious to spot and affects thousands of people every day. Unlike bullying at school which may be more overt, bullying within the workplace can be subtle with passive aggressive communication and gas lighting.

I experienced this myself 7 years ago and it’s not something I’ve ever spoken about. It had a huge impact on my mental health and the burnout it created took years to recover from.

You can listen to one of the things I experienced in the workplace with a female boss here:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CxItGLUoV-F/

Comments like this are deeply damaging to an employees mental health for a number of reasons:

1) it’s a personal attack on the employees personality and has nothing to do with their role .

2) They are using an umbrella term ‘everyone thinks’ rather than owning their personal opinion.

3) These types of comments are a form of emotional abuse, used to put a person down.

4) Language like this is used as a form of control in order to make a person feel small.

5) Statements like this don’t allow the person to really respond (what can you say to something like that) and is another way to assert control.

6) Derogatory comments in any form can negatively impact a persons self esteem.

It’s important to remember that while you control other people, you can always control how you react.

It may not feel like it at the time but you have a choice as to how much of someone’s toxic energy you take on.

Tapping is the perfect way to calm your nervous system and give that toxic energy back so watch the video above to help you nurture your mental health and process beeing bullied.

If you are going through it now, know that you are not alone. For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you.

Kim xx

TAPPING TO BOOST SELF LOVE

Self Love is a term that is often talked about but many people still struggle with it. How do you cultivate self love if you've been speaking negatively to yourself for a long time?

This is where tapping is hugely powerful because it helps you to literally change the way you think - transforming your inner narrative from self criticism to self compassion and loving kindness.

• Do you struggle to speak kindly to yourself?

• Do you you find it hard to give yourself a compliment?

• Do you often want to reject the term ‘I love myself?

• Do you struggle to be compassionate to yourself?

• Do you find it hard to say words of loving kindness to yourself?

• Are you often self depricating?

If you answered YES to any of the above then this tapping process is exactly what you need right now! Watch the video above to boost your self love and kick start the path to thinking differently.

For 1:1 support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you xx

TAPPING FOR TEENS

Your teenage years are a HUGE time in brain development and for many adolescents (and caregivers) it can be a tough time to navigate.

Brain changes during the early teen years set up four qualities of our minds during adolescence: novelty seeking, social engagement, increased emotional intensity, and creative exploration. There are changes in the fundamental circuits of the brain that make the adolescent period different from childhood. Each of these changes is necessary to create the important shifts that happen in our thinking, feeling, interacting, and decision-making during adolescence.

This video by Dr Dan Siegel explains exactly what happens to the brain:

For any teen these changes are a big transition to go through so it's normal to experience worries, anxiety or negative thinking. Tapping is a powerful tool to help process your emptions and overcome your anxious, negative thoughts - perfect for teens! Watch the video below to see how easy it is to nurture your wellbeing.

If you’re a teenager, parent or caregiver and would like some more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

TAPPING TO PROCESS ANGER

Anger is a normal human emotion but it's often not something that we know how to process in a healthy and safe way. Quite often anger is the proceeding emotion that covers up what we're really feeling inside (scared, lost, rejected, unsafe, sad, abandoned, betrayed, lonely).

This illustration called the Anger Funnel gives a clear description of how anger can be the blanket emotion for other feelings:

Anger shows up when we feel the need to defend ourselves. It’s a sign that something is wrong and needs our attention and consideration. Neither acting out in anger nor holding it in produces a desirable result. Anger demands our attention, as it buries our more authentic primary emotions, and prevents us from seeing ourselves and our situation clearly, and understanding what is happening within ourselves.

Unprocessed anger can wreak havoc on your mind and body. Watch the video above to see how you use tapping to help you process your anger and free your nervous system of negative tension.

If you would like more support dealing with your anger please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help.

Big Love

Kim xx

5 MINUTE TAPPING MEDITATION

Do you struggle with traditional meditation?

Do you find yourself constantly distracted?

Do you find it hard to sit still and breathe?

Do you often feel stressed and anxious?

If you answered YES to any of the above then you should try tapping. Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) is a REALLY powerful tool for meditation because the physical tapping and movement help to focus your mind and energy.

Watch this video now to try a 5 minute tapping meditation that will help reduce anxiety, improve your focus and calm your busy mind.

If you would like some 1:1 support to help nurture your wellbeing please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you.

Big Love

Kim xx

CULTIVATE HAPPINESS DAILY

A negative mind will never give you a positive life

We have over 6000 thoughts per day so if you're always thinking negatively, it's easy to see how it can quickly consume and overwhelm your mind. For a lot of people, thinking  positively doesn’t come naturally - especially when you’re experiencing a  difficult time or big transition in your life. The good news is, your brain is soft wired not hard wired, so you can change the way you think, you just need to give your brain the loving attention that it needs.

Life can be hard and stressful but if you learn and grow from the difficult situations you’re faced with - you’ll go with the flow of life and find it much easier to tap into your inner happiness and contentment.

It only takes 66 days to create a new neural pathway, which isn’t long in the grand scheme of life. Reframing your mind to think positively and being grateful for what you do have rather than focusing on what you don’t, is an invaluable tool for nurturing your wellbeing.

You control your happiness and you control your thoughts. Tapping is a great way change the way you think - try the Tapping Video above to boost your mood and kick start neuroplasticity .

THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING

Scientific studies have been finding that happiness can make our hearts healthier, our immune systems stronger, and our lives longer.

Various studies have shown that positive thinking is good for both your physical and mental wellbeing. Here are just a few benefits of being happy:

• Happiness predicts lower heart rate and blood pressure

• Strengthens your immune system

• Combats stress

• Fewer aches & pains

• Combats disease & disability

• Lengthens our lives

ALWAYS LOOK ON THE BRIGHT SIDE OF LIFE

Being happy doesn't appear with a magic wand, it's something that you cultivate daily and make a conscious choice about how you view your world. Everyday you are faced with situations that you can either view positively or negatively. If you continually default to a moan and groan you're not experiencing the benefits of an optimistic outlook. Of course this isn't always possible but if you continually TRY to look on the brighter side, your brain will be much happier. Instead of being pessimistic, ask yourself...

• What would the positive perspective of this be?

• What could I learn from this experience?

• How can this teach me?

• How can I grow from this situation?

• Does it serve me any purpose to think negatively about this?

WAYS TO CULTIVATE HAPPINESS DAILY

• Gratitude is an amazing way to overcome negative thinking. At the beginning and end of every day, write down three things you are grateful for. You can keep it simple and say - I am grateful for my health, the blue sky, my breath...

• Process your emotions by regularly tuning in to see how you feel then naming your emotion (name it to tame it). This helps reduce the intensity of any difficult emotion that may want to overtake your happiness

• Remember that you don't need to be happy all the time - that would be weird! Take the pressure off yourself and allow yourself to be human. We have a whole spectrum of emotions and happiness can sit by the side of your other emotions.

• Drain your brain of negativity by journalling your stream of consciousness. All you do is write down your thought as they pop into your head. What's on the page won't make sense, this is a great way to get rid of any negative thoughts that have been building inside your mind.

• Positive affirmations are a powerful way to reframe negative thoughts. Simply use the affirmation that is the exact opposite of your negative thought. For example if you keep thinking 'i'm not good enough' keep saying (during meditation or writing it down) I AM good enough.

• Reframe your negative thoughts by using Tapping. Emotional Freedom Technique is a powerful tool at helping you change the way you think. Watch the video above to give your mood the boost it needs.

This is a guided meditation called Loving Kindness. Listen to the link above to increase your self love and cultivate happiness daily.

If you would like more support to nurture your mind please get in touch kim@happyheads I would love to help.

Big Love

Kim xx

TAPPING TO NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.”

~Paulo Coelho

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health. It creates a blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. Some memories will be positive and some will be difficult and challenging. Your inner child is that part of you that for whatever reason maybe didn’t have their needs met as a child.

When we have a strong emotional reaction to something we’re reacting to the present moment because of our past and it’s often your inner child that’s been triggered.

For example, let’s say your boss criticises you for a project you worked really hard on and you feel flooded with emotion - this may be triggering your inner child and your limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’.

You may be able to access some core memories to help understand your emotional reactions but most will be completely unconscious.

“Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future”

No parent is perfect, even the most loving parents make mistakes and of course childhood can be tough in many ways. Nurturing your inner child is a powerful way to bring inner peace to your internal world and give your mental health the boost it needs.

Tapping is a great place to start. Watch the video above to start the healing process.