Overcome Self Doubt

WOMEN'S WELLBEING RETREAT

WOMEN’S WELLBEING RETREAT

I’m really excited to announce my FIRST EVER Women’s Retreat. It's been specifically designed for women to help you transform your mental and physical wellbeing enabling you to kick start 2025 feeling like the best version of yourself.

To make it easily manageable the retreat is set across 4 x 1hr lunch time sessions and its all online so can be done from the comfort of your own home.

Each Wednesday @12pm there will be a 1 hr LIVE workshop that will help you delve deeper into what you really want from the year ahead and overcome any self doubt that may be holding you back. Every workshop includes insight into your brain and topic, breathing techniques, guided meditation, Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) and so much more.

8th January - Self Love & Set Intentions

15th January - Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs

22nd January - Manifest the Life you Want 

29th January - Step Into Your Power

After the workshops you’ll receive a support email that has all the key insights from what you learnt, a meditation recording for you to use, tapping videos to follow and a weekly (easily doable) practice to help you integrate the tools and techniques into your day. Each one will be recorded so if you miss one you can always catch up.

It’s been designed to completely reset your mind, body & soul. The whole retreat is only £95 or Early Bird tickets are £85 if you book before 10th Dec, spaces are limited so don’t miss out. To book please get in touch kim@happyheads.me x.

TAPPING TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING

Are you a people pleaser?

If you’re not sure whether you’re a people pleaser or not, answer the following questions and see how many you answer YES to.

  • Do you always put the needs of others ahead of your own?

  • Do you worry about what other people think?

  • Do you struggle to make decisions

  • Do you struggle to say no?

  • Do you find it hard to set boundaries?

  • Do you often adapt who you are to please others?

  • Do you avoid disagreeing with people or voicing your honest opinion?

  • Do you go along with things they you’re not happy about to avoid conflict?

  • Do you feel pressure to be friendly, nice, or cheerful at all times?

  • Do you feel anxious at the thought of standing up for yourself?

  • Do you feel people often take advantage of you?

A “people pleaser” personality means a person feels a strong urge to please others, even at their own expense. They may feel that their wants and needs do not matter or alter their personality around others.

Where does ‘people pleasing’ come from?

People pleasing is actually a highly adaptive way for a child to survive their childhood. For various different reasons the technique of ‘pleasing’ a parent or caregiver ensures the child gets their core needs met (food, love, affection, connection) or in more traumatic situations it might help limit pain and abuse. 

Carried into adulthood, people pleasing can actually be really damaging to your mental health and wellbeing.

Constantly putting the needs of others before your own, overthinking and assessing how other people feel or think is hugely draining for your nervous system for a number of reasons:



  • We can’t ever know what someone is thinking - it’s a wasted energy!


  • Overthinking creates anxiety and can put your nervous system into high alert


  • Ignoring your own needs increases stress levels


  • Putting your self worth in other peoples hands is like giving your power away


  • It makes it difficult to make decisions for yourself 


  • Constant external validation cultivates self doubt and low self worth 



Tapping is a great way to start reclaiming your power! Try this process now and rebuild your self worth once again.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” Paulo Coelho

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health. It creates a blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. Some memories will be positive and some will be difficult and challenging.

What is the Inner Child?

Your inner child is that part of you that for whatever reason maybe didn’t have their needs met as a child.

When we have a strong emotional reaction to something we’re reacting to the present moment because of our past and it’s often your inner child that’s been triggered.

For example, let’s say your boss criticises you for a project you worked really hard on and you feel flooded with emotion - this may be triggering your inner child and your limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’.

You may be able to access some core memories to help understand your emotional reactions but most will be completely unconscious.

“Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future”

No parent is perfect, even the most loving parents make mistakes and of course childhood can be tough in many ways. Nurturing your inner child is a powerful way to bring inner peace to your internal world and give your mental health the boost it needs.

Tapping is a great place to start. Watch the video above to start the healing process.

HOW DO YOU CONNECT TO YOUR INNER CHILD?

"By reparenting our Inner Child, we can release and heal the pain from the past" Margaret Paul

If you’re not sure what your inner child is feeling today, follow this process:

Step 1: Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then visualise yourself as a little child sat in front of you. Notice what they're wearing, and what they look like.

Step 2: Ask that little child how they're feeling today and notice what they say.

Step 3: Open your eyes and in your dominant hand write down the question - how are you feeling today?

Step 4: Put the pen in your non dominant hand and write the answer. Notice what comes up.

Step 5: Put the pen back into your dominant hand and write down these words - I am here for you now, you are safe, you are loved.

If you're still not sure what your inner child is feeling you can gently ask yourself these questions.

* Did I feel heard as a child? Did I feel like my parents / caregivers listening to what I had to say? Or did I feel dismissed?

* As a child did I feel seen? Or did I feel ignored?

* Were my emotions always validated? Or was I shamed for expressing how I felt?

* Was it ok to be sad, angry, scared, frustrated.... as a child? Was it safe to express my emotions?

* Did I feel safe as a child? (Emotionally and physically)

* Did I feel loved by my parents?

* Was the love unconditional or was it based on outside factors? (e.g achievements or things I did?)

* Did I feel like I had to prove my worth? (with grades, achievements, being a good girl/ boy, acting a certain way, behaving in a certain manner)

* Was I ever made to feel like I wasn’t good enough?

* Did I ever feel abandoned?

* Did I ever feel shamed, criticised or judged?

* Was I ever hurt (emotionally and physically)?

Or you can try listening to the Inner Child Guided Meditation Below

AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUR INNER CHILD

Speaking directly to your inner child through meditation, journalling, tapping or any other means is a powerful way to make them feel seen, heard and validated. What do they need to hear today?

  • I hear you

  • I see you

  • All of your emotions are valid

  • You are safe

  • Your are loved

  • You are loving

  • You are loveable

  • You are enough just the way you are

  • You are XXX (use the affirmation that is the opposite of your limiting belief e.g good enough, beautiful, wonderful, clever, strong, funny, kind, whole, good, talented, loved...)

  • I am here for you now, you are never alone

  • You don't need to be perfect you are human

  • It’s ok to make mistakes

Inner Child Support

For more support nurturing your Inner Child please get in touch kim@hapyheads.me and check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme I would love to hear from you.

You can also download the Tapping Solution App where I have a 4 Day Inner Child Healing Series. It’s the perfect opportunity to help you reconnect to your inner child. It will enable you to communicate with them, hear what they have to say, gain insight into their limiting beliefs and deeply nourish them in the process. Your inner child really does hold the key to reducing anxiety, overcoming your limiting beliefs, releasing self doubt, overcoming fear and so much more.

HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

Happy Heads Monthly Reset - Now Live!

A limiting belief is an UNTRUE belief of yourself that you believe is TRUE. It’s the negative chatter you find your brain defaulting to when you’re feeling exhausted, anxious, burnt out, overwhelmed, stressed or wanting to do something that feels out of your comfort zone.

Whether it’s I’m not good enough, I will fail, I never get it right, I’m not beautiful, I don’t deserve success, my voice isn’t important, I’m not clever….these are limiting beliefs that quite literally hold you back from being who you want to be in life.

The next Happy Heads Monthly Reset is now LIVE and is all about how you can overcome your limiting beliefs. In it you’ll get:

* Insight into what limiting beliefs are and where they come from
* Top tips on how to rewire your brain to think differently
* Tapping Process to overcome your limiting beliefs
* Loving Kindness meditation to rebuild your self compassion
* Chakra cleanse meditation to calm both body and mind

Click the link HERE to sign up now, it’s totally FREE and I don’t spam peole xx

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