NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” Paulo Coelho

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health. It creates a blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. Some memories will be positive and some will be difficult and challenging.

What is the Inner Child?

Your inner child is that part of you that for whatever reason maybe didn’t have their needs met as a child.

When we have a strong emotional reaction to something we’re reacting to the present moment because of our past and it’s often your inner child that’s been triggered.

For example, let’s say your boss criticises you for a project you worked really hard on and you feel flooded with emotion - this may be triggering your inner child and your limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’.

You may be able to access some core memories to help understand your emotional reactions but most will be completely unconscious.

“Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future”

No parent is perfect, even the most loving parents make mistakes and of course childhood can be tough in many ways. Nurturing your inner child is a powerful way to bring inner peace to your internal world and give your mental health the boost it needs.

Tapping is a great place to start. Watch the video above to start the healing process.

HOW DO YOU CONNECT TO YOUR INNER CHILD?

"By reparenting our Inner Child, we can release and heal the pain from the past" Margaret Paul

If you’re not sure what your inner child is feeling today, follow this process:

Step 1: Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then visualise yourself as a little child sat in front of you. Notice what they're wearing, and what they look like.

Step 2: Ask that little child how they're feeling today and notice what they say.

Step 3: Open your eyes and in your dominant hand write down the question - how are you feeling today?

Step 4: Put the pen in your non dominant hand and write the answer. Notice what comes up.

Step 5: Put the pen back into your dominant hand and write down these words - I am here for you now, you are safe, you are loved.

If you're still not sure what your inner child is feeling you can gently ask yourself these questions.

* Did I feel heard as a child? Did I feel like my parents / caregivers listening to what I had to say? Or did I feel dismissed?

* As a child did I feel seen? Or did I feel ignored?

* Were my emotions always validated? Or was I shamed for expressing how I felt?

* Was it ok to be sad, angry, scared, frustrated.... as a child? Was it safe to express my emotions?

* Did I feel safe as a child? (Emotionally and physically)

* Did I feel loved by my parents?

* Was the love unconditional or was it based on outside factors? (e.g achievements or things I did?)

* Did I feel like I had to prove my worth? (with grades, achievements, being a good girl/ boy, acting a certain way, behaving in a certain manner)

* Was I ever made to feel like I wasn’t good enough?

* Did I ever feel abandoned?

* Did I ever feel shamed, criticised or judged?

* Was I ever hurt (emotionally and physically)?

Or you can try listening to the Inner Child Guided Meditation Below

AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUR INNER CHILD

Speaking directly to your inner child through meditation, journalling, tapping or any other means is a powerful way to make them feel seen, heard and validated. What do they need to hear today?

• I hear you

• I see you

• All of your emotions are valid

• You are safe

• Your are loved

• You are loving

• You are loveable

• You are enough just the way you are

• You are XXX (use the affirmation that is the opposite of your limiting belief e.g good enough, beautiful, wonderful, clever, strong, funny, kind, whole, good, talented, loved...)

• I am here for you now, you are never alone

• You don't need to be perfect you are human

• It’s ok to make mistakes

Inner Child Support

For more support nurturing your Inner Child please get in touch kim@hapyheads.me and check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme I would love to hear from you.

You can also download the Tapping Solution App where I have a 4 Day Inner Child Healing Series. It’s the perfect opportunity to help you reconnect to your inner child. It will enable you to communicate with them, hear what they have to say, gain insight into their limiting beliefs and deeply nourish them in the process. Your inner child really does hold the key to reducing anxiety, overcoming your limiting beliefs, releasing self doubt, overcoming fear and so much more.

PROCESSING GRIEF - AVAILABLE NOW!

Grief is one of the hardest things any human can endure and that is because it never really leaves you BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t also lead a very happy and full life. Understanding how to process the waves of grief when they arise is a wonderful way to turn grief into your super power.

In this Monthly Reset called Processing Grief you’ll get:

* Insight into how grief can manifest both mentally and physically
* Tapping video to help you process your grief
* Tips for processing grief whenever the waves arise
* Tapping video to help you process anger (a common emotion connected to grief)
* Tapping video to help you reduce anxiety (another common emotion connected to grief)
* Guided meditation called Wise Words that will help you reconnect with the loves one you’ve lost

It’s all totally FREE just sign up HERE. I never spam people you will just get the monthly reset and the occasional tapping video.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

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TAPPING TO REDUCE SOCIAL ANXIETY

Do you feel anxious in social situations?

If you do, then you’re not alone. Social anxiety is really normal, especially post pandemic. We were isolated from people for a long time and your nervous system would have adapted to that change so it’s understandable that people are still adjusting to social interactions. In small doses a bit of anxiety is no bad thing at all but what you don’t want, is for it to build and feel overwhelming to the point that you then start to avoid social situations because our brains NEED human connection.

Human brains are wired to connect with others, and this need is as fundamental as the need for food or shelter.

The human brain is wired to thrive in social environments. Our brains have specialised areas dedicated to processing social interactions, emotions, and empathy. When we engage in social connections, these brain regions are activated, leading to the release of feel-good neurotransmitters like oxytocin and dopamine, which contribute to positive emotions and wellbeing.

Whatever your fear is of social situations, try this tapping process now to calm your nerves and rebuild your confidence once again. Your brain will love you for it!

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

5 MIN TAPPING FOR MUMS

Being a mum can be really hard. Most days you are on the go from the moment you open your eyes to the moment you fall asleep. This is a short tapping process to help bring some stillness into your over worked nervous system and also validate all of your mum emotions - they are all valid!

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

5 MIN TAPPING FOR BURNOUT

We live in such a busy world, where people feel like they need to be switched on 24/7 so it’s no surprise that more people are feeling burnt out than ever. Anytime you feel stressed or anxious your nervous system goes into high alert. In short doses this is fine but when you’re being continually triggered with choric stress (which is what Burnout is) your nervous system can’t cope and your brain quite literally can’t function properly.

Are you feeling burnt out today?

Tapping is the perfect way to quickly bring your frazzled nervous system back into balance and prevent full burnout. It doesn’t take long to take yourself out of that fight / flight response so take 5 minutes now and see how you feel.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me or check out the Happy Heads Burnout Programme I would love to hear from you xx

Would you like Happy Heads in your Workplace?

After suffering complete burnout 8 years ago now I was forced to find ways to transform my mind. Meditation and Tapping helped me to do exactly that and overcoming burnout was actually one of the reasons I started Happy Heads. It’s also why I’m so passionate about teaching in companies because I know how stressful corporate life can be.

The workshopsand talks I run cover a wide variety of topics including:

* Prevent Burnout 

* Befriend Your Inner Critic 

* Reduce Stress & Anxiety

* Manifest The Life You Want

* Emotional Resilience

* Calm Your Nervous System 

* Improve Sleep

* Overcome Limiting Beliefs

* Leadership Team Support (various topics)

* Improve Focus 

* Resilience Toolkit 

* Grief Support 

* Pregnancy Birth & Beyond

* Refresh Your Energy

I specialise in teaching children and families so as well as being a mum of two, supporting parents (especially working mums) is something that I’m really passionate about.

The workshops I run cover:

* Parent & Child Wellbeing

* Teen Wellness 

* Teaching Children Meditation 

* Mindful Parenting    

There are many company testimonials you can check out HERE.

If you are interested in adding some wellbeing into your workplace please get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

Happy Heads Monthly Reset - Now Live!

A limiting belief is an UNTRUE belief of yourself that you believe is TRUE. It’s the negative chatter you find your brain defaulting to when you’re feeling exhausted, anxious, burnt out, overwhelmed, stressed or wanting to do something that feels out of your comfort zone.

Whether it’s I’m not good enough, I will fail, I never get it right, I’m not beautiful, I don’t deserve success, my voice isn’t important, I’m not clever….these are limiting beliefs that quite literally hold you back from being who you want to be in life.

The next Happy Heads Monthly Reset is now LIVE and is all about how you can overcome your limiting beliefs. In it you’ll get:

* Insight into what limiting beliefs are and where they come from
* Top tips on how to rewire your brain to think differently
* Tapping Process to overcome your limiting beliefs
* Loving Kindness meditation to rebuild your self compassion
* Chakra cleanse meditation to calm both body and mind

Click the link HERE to sign up now, it’s totally FREE and I don’t spam peole xx

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5 MIN TAPPING TO NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health because it’s when your brain and nervous system are still very much developing. Everything that happens to you in this time forms an internal blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. It’s the time when your nervous system learns how to adapt to stress and when your strongest limiting beliefs are formed.

This is why your ‘inner child’ is so important. When we have big reactions to things it’s often our wounded inner child that has been triggered and it’s happening without us even realising.

Your “inner child” is a part of your subconsious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future.

We all have an inner child inside of us, that for whatever reason, maybe didn’t have their needs met. It’s such an important part of who you are and doesn't take long to tune in to them and make them feel loved.

Try this short tapping process now to nurture your inner child and see how much calmer you feel.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me or check out the Happy Heads Nurture Your Inner Child Programme xx

3 MIN TAPPING TO REDUCE ANXIETY

Anxiety is a completely normal human emotion that everyone experiences to varying degrees. If we didn’t have it we would all be lemmings walking into the road, so anxiety quite literally keeps us safe.

The problem is, our amygdala (brains fear response) doesn’t know the difference between a real and imagined threat. This is why you can feel anxious speaking in public, going on a date, new social situations, thinking about a future event, making new friends, getting on a busy bus….none of these are REAL threats to your life but your amygdala still thinks you’re about to get eaten by a sober toothed tiger.

Tapping is the perfect way to face it head on, which is the quickest way to reduce anxiety and bring stillness to your body and mind. The physical tapping sends a calming signal directly to your amygdala and reminds your nervous system that you are in fact SAFE.

Are you feeling anxious right now? Try this quick 3 minute tapping process and see how you feel.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

TAPPING TO RELEASE YOUR STRESS

WHAT IS STRESS?

"A state of worry or mental tension caused by a difficult situation" World Health Organisation

Stress is a normal part of being a human being, it's a natural response that prompts us to address challenges and threats in our lives. The problem is we live in such a fast paced digital world where people feel like they need to be switched on 24/7 so there are many things that can stress us out.

Endless access to world news, social media, busy jobs, the cost of living, parenting juggles, mobile phones, and the general day to day stress of life...it's easy to see how a normal amount of stress can quickly lead into chronic stress.

Stress can be brief, situational, and a positive force motivating performance, but if experienced over an extended period of time it can become chronic stress, which negatively impacts health and well-being.

WHAT IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING WHEN WE'RE STRESSED?

Anytime you feel stressed your amygdala (brains fear response that contributes to emotional processing) sends out a distress signal to your hypothalamus, which is like a mini control centre in your brain. Your hypothalamus then starts to send out stress hormones (adrenaline, cortisol, and norepinephrine) which then trigger the ancient fight or flight response. Your nervous system then gets your body gets ready for the perceived threat - muscles tense, heart rate quickens, breathing speeds up, digestive system slows down.

This response was designed to protect your body in an emergency by preparing you to react quickly. But when the stress response keeps firing, day after day, it could put your health at serious risk.

WHAT DAMAGE CAN STRESS DO TO YOUR BODY AND MIND?

Short doses of the stress response are ok as your nervous system has the time to go back to a place of rest and relaxation but when you're body is in a constant state of high alert the long term exposure to cortisol and other stress hormones can negatively impact nearly all of your body's process's.

This puts you at higher risk of many health problems, including:

• Anxiety

• Depression

• Digestive problems

• Headaches

• Muscle tension and pain

• Heart disease, heart attack, high blood pressure and stroke.

• Sleep problems

• Weight gain

• Problems with memory and focus

HOW DO WE MANAGE STRESS?

Managing your stress levels is an essential way to look after both your mental and physical health but it's important to remember that life doesn't have to be completely free of stress for you to be able to effectively regulate your nervous system. We can't control what life throws at us, but you can control how you react.

Tapping

Tapping is a wonderful way to bring your nervous system back into balance anytime you feel stressed, try this 10 Min tapping sequence above and notice how it makes you feel with no judgement.

Pepare your Nervous System

The start of the day is really important to get your nervous system ready for the day. Set an alarm (something calming like a bird sound) to wake you up 10 mins earlier and do something that calms your mind. That could be a listening to a meditation, doing some tapping, some breathwork or moving your body like a short yoga sequence. If you’re a mum like me then THIS is how you can meditate in the morning.

Regulate your breathing

Take time throughout the day to bring your breath down into your belly. This is the best way to engage your parasympathetic nervous system (rest and relaxation) and THIS is how you do it:

Be mindful of how you use your phone

Mobile phones can be a big cause of stress and anxiety so be really mindful about how you use your phone throughout the day. Reduce the amount of time you spend on social media, stop reading the news, silence your notifications, don't feel like you need to reply to endless Whatsapp messages, never look at your phone first thing in the morning and last thing at night and physically put your phone away when you are doing another task or sat at the dinner table.

Create a sleep ritual

The end of the day is an important time to signal to your brain - it's time to switch off. Get off any screens at least 1 hour before bed and do something that calms your mind like tapping, meditation, hot bath, journalling, calming smells… When you improve your sleep, it's much easier to regulate your emotions (and stress response) the next day.

Regularly do these three things:
Release jaw, soften hands, relax shoulders.

Listen to this meditation to deeply anchor your mind in the present momet, reduce your stress levels and create a bubble of protection around yourself.