TAPPING TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING

Are you a people pleaser?

If you’re not sure whether you’re a people pleaser or not, answer the following questions and see how many you answer YES to.

• Do you always put the needs of others ahead of your own?

• Do you worry about what other people think?

• Do you struggle to make decisions

• Do you struggle to say no?

• Do you find it hard to set boundaries?

• Do you often adapt who you are to please others?

• Do you avoid disagreeing with people or voicing your honest opinion?

• Do you go along with things they you’re not happy about to avoid conflict?

• Do you feel pressure to be friendly, nice, or cheerful at all times?

• Do you feel anxious at the thought of standing up for yourself?

• Do you feel people often take advantage of you?

A “people pleaser” personality means a person feels a strong urge to please others, even at their own expense. They may feel that their wants and needs do not matter or alter their personality around others.

Where does ‘people pleasing’ come from?

People pleasing is actually a highly adaptive way for a child to survive their childhood. For various different reasons the technique of ‘pleasing’ a parent or caregiver ensures the child gets their core needs met (food, love, affection, connection) or in more traumatic situations it might help limit pain and abuse. 

Carried into adulthood, people pleasing can actually be really damaging to your mental health and wellbeing.

Constantly putting the needs of others before your own, overthinking and assessing how other people feel or think is hugely draining for your nervous system for a number of reasons:



• We can’t ever know what someone is thinking - it’s a wasted energy!


• Overthinking creates anxiety and can put your nervous system into high alert


• Ignoring your own needs increases stress levels


• Putting your self worth in other peoples hands is like giving your power away


• It makes it difficult to make decisions for yourself 


• Constant external validation cultivates self doubt and low self worth 



Tapping is a great way to start reclaiming your power! Try this process now and rebuild your self worth once again.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” Paulo Coelho

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health. It creates a blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. Some memories will be positive and some will be difficult and challenging.

What is the Inner Child?

Your inner child is that part of you that for whatever reason maybe didn’t have their needs met as a child.

When we have a strong emotional reaction to something we’re reacting to the present moment because of our past and it’s often your inner child that’s been triggered.

For example, let’s say your boss criticises you for a project you worked really hard on and you feel flooded with emotion - this may be triggering your inner child and your limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’.

You may be able to access some core memories to help understand your emotional reactions but most will be completely unconscious.

“Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future”

No parent is perfect, even the most loving parents make mistakes and of course childhood can be tough in many ways. Nurturing your inner child is a powerful way to bring inner peace to your internal world and give your mental health the boost it needs.

Tapping is a great place to start. Watch the video above to start the healing process.

HOW DO YOU CONNECT TO YOUR INNER CHILD?

"By reparenting our Inner Child, we can release and heal the pain from the past" Margaret Paul

If you’re not sure what your inner child is feeling today, follow this process:

Step 1: Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then visualise yourself as a little child sat in front of you. Notice what they're wearing, and what they look like.

Step 2: Ask that little child how they're feeling today and notice what they say.

Step 3: Open your eyes and in your dominant hand write down the question - how are you feeling today?

Step 4: Put the pen in your non dominant hand and write the answer. Notice what comes up.

Step 5: Put the pen back into your dominant hand and write down these words - I am here for you now, you are safe, you are loved.

If you're still not sure what your inner child is feeling you can gently ask yourself these questions.

* Did I feel heard as a child? Did I feel like my parents / caregivers listening to what I had to say? Or did I feel dismissed?

* As a child did I feel seen? Or did I feel ignored?

* Were my emotions always validated? Or was I shamed for expressing how I felt?

* Was it ok to be sad, angry, scared, frustrated.... as a child? Was it safe to express my emotions?

* Did I feel safe as a child? (Emotionally and physically)

* Did I feel loved by my parents?

* Was the love unconditional or was it based on outside factors? (e.g achievements or things I did?)

* Did I feel like I had to prove my worth? (with grades, achievements, being a good girl/ boy, acting a certain way, behaving in a certain manner)

* Was I ever made to feel like I wasn’t good enough?

* Did I ever feel abandoned?

* Did I ever feel shamed, criticised or judged?

* Was I ever hurt (emotionally and physically)?

Or you can try listening to the Inner Child Guided Meditation Below

AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUR INNER CHILD

Speaking directly to your inner child through meditation, journalling, tapping or any other means is a powerful way to make them feel seen, heard and validated. What do they need to hear today?

• I hear you

• I see you

• All of your emotions are valid

• You are safe

• Your are loved

• You are loving

• You are loveable

• You are enough just the way you are

• You are XXX (use the affirmation that is the opposite of your limiting belief e.g good enough, beautiful, wonderful, clever, strong, funny, kind, whole, good, talented, loved...)

• I am here for you now, you are never alone

• You don't need to be perfect you are human

• It’s ok to make mistakes

Inner Child Support

For more support nurturing your Inner Child please get in touch kim@hapyheads.me and check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme I would love to hear from you.

You can also download the Tapping Solution App where I have a 4 Day Inner Child Healing Series. It’s the perfect opportunity to help you reconnect to your inner child. It will enable you to communicate with them, hear what they have to say, gain insight into their limiting beliefs and deeply nourish them in the process. Your inner child really does hold the key to reducing anxiety, overcoming your limiting beliefs, releasing self doubt, overcoming fear and so much more.

PROCESSING GRIEF - AVAILABLE NOW!

Grief is one of the hardest things any human can endure and that is because it never really leaves you BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t also lead a very happy and full life. Understanding how to process the waves of grief when they arise is a wonderful way to turn grief into your super power.

In this Monthly Reset called Processing Grief you’ll get:

* Insight into how grief can manifest both mentally and physically
* Tapping video to help you process your grief
* Tips for processing grief whenever the waves arise
* Tapping video to help you process anger (a common emotion connected to grief)
* Tapping video to help you reduce anxiety (another common emotion connected to grief)
* Guided meditation called Wise Words that will help you reconnect with the loves one you’ve lost

It’s all totally FREE just sign up HERE. I never spam people you will just get the monthly reset and the occasional tapping video.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

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5 MIN TAPPING TO NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health because it’s when your brain and nervous system are still very much developing. Everything that happens to you in this time forms an internal blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. It’s the time when your nervous system learns how to adapt to stress and when your strongest limiting beliefs are formed.

This is why your ‘inner child’ is so important. When we have big reactions to things it’s often our wounded inner child that has been triggered and it’s happening without us even realising.

Your “inner child” is a part of your subconsious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future.

We all have an inner child inside of us, that for whatever reason, maybe didn’t have their needs met. It’s such an important part of who you are and doesn't take long to tune in to them and make them feel loved.

Try this short tapping process now to nurture your inner child and see how much calmer you feel.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me or check out the Happy Heads Nurture Your Inner Child Programme xx

Happy Heads - Private Sessions

Would you like a private session with Happy Heads? One to to one sessions are the perfect way to nurture your wellbeing and I always tailor the sessions to your own personal needs.

The sessions consists of breathing techniques, guided meditation, and a full round of Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping). Tapping is a powerful tool at helping you release negative tension held in both your body and mind. It’s the perfect partner to meditation as it helps your brain get to the core route of a problem and takes the emotional / negative charge away from it.

I always provide a full support document after the session and a meditation recording / tapping video for you to use. The sessions are 1hr 30mins and over Zoom.

If you really want to give your mental health a reset and you’re looking for something longer term I have a selection of brilliant programmes for you to choose from:
•Happy Heads Wellbeing Programme
•Happy Heads Burnout Programme
•Nurture Your Inner Child
•Pregnancy, Birth & Beyond
•Happy Heads Grief Support

I always offer a FREE 20 minute consultation call so if you’re interested please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you xx

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NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

INTERVIEW NOW LIVE!

My Interview as part of the Tapping World Summit is now LIVE and you can watch it HERE. It's live and FREE for the next 16hrs but after that you can buy the summit and own it for life.

I had a wonderful conversation with Jessica Ortner about how we can use tapping to Nuture Your Inner Child and we also did some actual tapping that you can do too. Watching it will help you learn:

• How to recognize when your adult reactions of today are actually manifestations of unresolved childhood experiences from the past.

• How to address limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with self-compassion and self-acceptance (hint: Tapping can help!)

• Self-care practices and affirmations to nurture your inner child and heal deep-seated emotional wounds.

I hope you enjoy the interview and if you did like it you may want to check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme.

Big Love
Kim xx

THESE 10 DAYS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Life isn't always easy. In fact, for most people, it involves a lot of stress and struggle on a daily basis. With finances, work, health, relationships, and a lot more. Most people are dealing with more stress, anxiety and overwhelm than they realise.

But it doesn't have to be this way.

Which is why I want to share what is probably the most transformational FREE online event that exists - The Tapping World Summit. I've been watching it for years gaining so many insights, inspiration and self healing and this year Jessica Ortner herself invited ME to be part of it (HUGE pinch me moment).

I had a wonderful conversation with Jessica about how we can use tapping to Nurture Our Inner Child and we also did some actual tapping that you can do to. Watching it will help you learn:

• How to recognize when your adult reactions of today are actually manifestations of unresolved childhood experiences from the past.

• How to address limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with self-compassion and self-acceptance (hint: Tapping can help!)

• Self-care practices and affirmations to nurture your inner child and heal deep-seated emotional wounds.

There are 25 free presentations to watch, check out this page to learn more (click on the image below).

This isn't just an informational event also, it's an experience. Attendees don't just leave with ideas or theories on how to make their life better, they leave actually feeling better. They leave with less stress, anxiety, overwhelm, anger, sadness, and other negative emotions.

They leave having cleared limiting beliefs around money, health, relationships and more. They leave having cleared childhood traumas.They leave the event better than when they went in and YOU can be part of it.

It's been going on for 15 years, over 2.5 million people have attended this online event and it has a reputation for getting incredible results for anyone who watches it.

Trust me on this one... this technique and this event are truly amazing. Go here to learn more and sign up:

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Enjoy and make sure to let me know what you think of the event.  I hope you enjoy my interview :)

Big Love
Kim xx

TAPPING FOR CHILDREN

Childhood forms the foundation of your mental health and wellbeing, this is why it's so important (as parents and caregivers) to empower children with tools that help them process their emotions. It's really normal for children to have worries but it's often hard for them to identify or even verbalise what’s really going on for them. Tapping is a great way to help children gently process their worries so that things never build and become overwhelming.

As long as your child can speak - they can follow along with the tapping above. If they can't yet speak you can always play a game of 'simon says' and get them to copy what you do as you tap on your body.

If it's your own child and (and they would like you to) you can also try tapping on them. I sometimes tap on my daughter just before she goes to sleep to help her feel calm and relaxed.

You can follow the video above or try these:

1. You can simply tap and breathe (remember children need our nervous systems to help them regulate theirs, this is called co-regulation) so when you take a deep breath, this has a calming effect on them. Either tapping on them or tapping on yourself and they copy you.

2. Tap on them and repeat affirmations like - I love you just the way you are, you are amazing, you are clever, you are kind, you are funny, you are incredible, you are special, you are loved...

3. Get them to tap on themselves while they repeat affirmations like - I am good enough just the way I am, I am special, I am loved, I can be whoever I want to be, I am amazing, I love myself...

For more support helping your child please get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx