TAPPING TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING

Are you a people pleaser?

If you’re not sure whether you’re a people pleaser or not, answer the following questions and see how many you answer YES to.

• Do you always put the needs of others ahead of your own?

• Do you worry about what other people think?

• Do you struggle to make decisions

• Do you struggle to say no?

• Do you find it hard to set boundaries?

• Do you often adapt who you are to please others?

• Do you avoid disagreeing with people or voicing your honest opinion?

• Do you go along with things they you’re not happy about to avoid conflict?

• Do you feel pressure to be friendly, nice, or cheerful at all times?

• Do you feel anxious at the thought of standing up for yourself?

• Do you feel people often take advantage of you?

A “people pleaser” personality means a person feels a strong urge to please others, even at their own expense. They may feel that their wants and needs do not matter or alter their personality around others.

Where does ‘people pleasing’ come from?

People pleasing is actually a highly adaptive way for a child to survive their childhood. For various different reasons the technique of ‘pleasing’ a parent or caregiver ensures the child gets their core needs met (food, love, affection, connection) or in more traumatic situations it might help limit pain and abuse. 

Carried into adulthood, people pleasing can actually be really damaging to your mental health and wellbeing.

Constantly putting the needs of others before your own, overthinking and assessing how other people feel or think is hugely draining for your nervous system for a number of reasons:



• We can’t ever know what someone is thinking - it’s a wasted energy!


• Overthinking creates anxiety and can put your nervous system into high alert


• Ignoring your own needs increases stress levels


• Putting your self worth in other peoples hands is like giving your power away


• It makes it difficult to make decisions for yourself 


• Constant external validation cultivates self doubt and low self worth 



Tapping is a great way to start reclaiming your power! Try this process now and rebuild your self worth once again.

For more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

Happy Heads Monthly Reset - Now Live!

A limiting belief is an UNTRUE belief of yourself that you believe is TRUE. It’s the negative chatter you find your brain defaulting to when you’re feeling exhausted, anxious, burnt out, overwhelmed, stressed or wanting to do something that feels out of your comfort zone.

Whether it’s I’m not good enough, I will fail, I never get it right, I’m not beautiful, I don’t deserve success, my voice isn’t important, I’m not clever….these are limiting beliefs that quite literally hold you back from being who you want to be in life.

The next Happy Heads Monthly Reset is now LIVE and is all about how you can overcome your limiting beliefs. In it you’ll get:

* Insight into what limiting beliefs are and where they come from
* Top tips on how to rewire your brain to think differently
* Tapping Process to overcome your limiting beliefs
* Loving Kindness meditation to rebuild your self compassion
* Chakra cleanse meditation to calm both body and mind

Click the link HERE to sign up now, it’s totally FREE and I don’t spam peole xx

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TAPPING ON THE FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING

The fear of public speaking is something that many people struggle with so if it fills you with anxiety then you are not alone. I used to have a chronic fear of speaking in public until I discovered tapping, which is lucky as I now teach and talk in front of big groups regularly!

Contrary to what your brain might think, you don't need to completely eradicate the fear because it's a normal part of speaking in public BUT you don't want fear to ever hold you back from also feeling calm and grounded when you do.

Tapping is the perfect way to reduce your fear and start to rewire your mind to think differently. The affirmation I AM EXCITED is a great way to actually trick your mind because the feeling of anxiety is physiologically almost the same as the feeling of excitement (racing heart, palms sweaty, butterflies in stomach…).I have used this many times before running workshops to big audiences and it always helps me calm my mind,

Another great way to overcome the fear of public speaking is identify what lies behind your fear. So for me it wasn’t the public speaking itself it was the fear of saying something wrong and the fear of being judged. Once I worked on those limiting beliefs and processed their core route memories - my confidence was transformed.

If you would like to explore your fear of public speaking more deeply then please do get in touch Kim@happyheads.me I would love to help.

I hope you enjoy this one, I know you can do it, let me know how it goes :)

Big Love

Kim x

NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

INTERVIEW NOW LIVE!

My Interview as part of the Tapping World Summit is now LIVE and you can watch it HERE. It's live and FREE for the next 16hrs but after that you can buy the summit and own it for life.

I had a wonderful conversation with Jessica Ortner about how we can use tapping to Nuture Your Inner Child and we also did some actual tapping that you can do too. Watching it will help you learn:

• How to recognize when your adult reactions of today are actually manifestations of unresolved childhood experiences from the past.

• How to address limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with self-compassion and self-acceptance (hint: Tapping can help!)

• Self-care practices and affirmations to nurture your inner child and heal deep-seated emotional wounds.

I hope you enjoy the interview and if you did like it you may want to check out my Nurture Your Inner Child Programme.

Big Love
Kim xx

THESE 10 DAYS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Life isn't always easy. In fact, for most people, it involves a lot of stress and struggle on a daily basis. With finances, work, health, relationships, and a lot more. Most people are dealing with more stress, anxiety and overwhelm than they realise.

But it doesn't have to be this way.

Which is why I want to share what is probably the most transformational FREE online event that exists - The Tapping World Summit. I've been watching it for years gaining so many insights, inspiration and self healing and this year Jessica Ortner herself invited ME to be part of it (HUGE pinch me moment).

I had a wonderful conversation with Jessica about how we can use tapping to Nurture Our Inner Child and we also did some actual tapping that you can do to. Watching it will help you learn:

• How to recognize when your adult reactions of today are actually manifestations of unresolved childhood experiences from the past.

• How to address limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with self-compassion and self-acceptance (hint: Tapping can help!)

• Self-care practices and affirmations to nurture your inner child and heal deep-seated emotional wounds.

There are 25 free presentations to watch, check out this page to learn more (click on the image below).

This isn't just an informational event also, it's an experience. Attendees don't just leave with ideas or theories on how to make their life better, they leave actually feeling better. They leave with less stress, anxiety, overwhelm, anger, sadness, and other negative emotions.

They leave having cleared limiting beliefs around money, health, relationships and more. They leave having cleared childhood traumas.They leave the event better than when they went in and YOU can be part of it.

It's been going on for 15 years, over 2.5 million people have attended this online event and it has a reputation for getting incredible results for anyone who watches it.

Trust me on this one... this technique and this event are truly amazing. Go here to learn more and sign up:

16th TAPPING WORLD SUMMIT

Enjoy and make sure to let me know what you think of the event.  I hope you enjoy my interview :)

Big Love
Kim xx

FREE TAPPING MEDITATIONS

Hi Lovely People,

I have a really powerful free resource for you today, which I highly recommend you not only access immediately, but also download so that you can use it anytime you need it.

It's actually not just one resource... but three!  In these Tapping Meditations you'll get to follow along as my friend and New York Times best-selling author Jessica Ortner guides you through three calming and empowering processes.

The Tapping Meditations that you can access immediately are:

1 - Releasing Stress and Overwhelm
(Something that we can all use on a daily basis!)

2 - Moving from Anger to Peace
(An often misunderstood emotion that so many deal with!)

3 - Releasing Anxiety and Worry
(Anxiety is a much bigger challenge than people realise!)

Just go here to acess them now:

What's incredible about Tapping Meditations is that they not only help you to feel calm and balanced, they also help you to release deep core issues that you may be dealing with.

Enjoy these meditations.  I know they can be a great resource for you. 

Big Love
Kim x

P.S. - These meditations are being released as part of the lead up to an amazing event known as the Tapping World Summit.

The summit starts on February 26th and takes you through 10 days of free presentations (2 per day) where you get to learn from the world's leading Tapping experts on a variety of topics. I can't recommend this event enough, I've watched it for years and I still can't believe that they asked ME to be part of it this year!

YOU ARE ENOUGH

Do you struggle to believe that you are enough? If you do, then you’re alone. One of the most common limiting beliefs is 'I'm Not Enough'. Whether it's I'm not good enough, I'm not rich enough, I'm not beautiful enough, I'm not successful enough - not feeling 'enough' can have a big impact on your confidence and self worth.

Tapping is a powerful way to start to change your inner narrative and rewire your mind to think differently.

If you would like some more support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to help xx

MANIFEST THE LIFE YOU WANT - 6th December @ 8pm

“A manifestation is something that is put into your physical reality through thought, feelings and beliefs" Law of Attraction

Without  consciously realising - we are always manifesting. Every thought you have creates an energy flow within and around your physical being. This energy attracts its likeness. So if you’re thinking “I’m not good  enough” then your energy may start to reflect that and it will be harder to attract positive experiences that align to your authentic self. Manifesting is a powerful way to identify what you really want from life, overcome your limiting thoughts and start to turn your dreams into reality.

This one hour VIRTUAL workshop includes:

Insight  - into what manifesting actually is and the four step process to follow. 

Breathwork - to calm and soothe your nervous system.

Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) to help you overcome any self doubt that might be holding you back.

Manifesting - the life that you want and identifying your dreams.

Visualisation - to help put your dreams out into the universe.

The workshops is only £20 and spaces are limited. To book on just click below or you can email me direct on kim@happyheads.me .

I LOVE manifesting so i’m really excited to share this one with you and really looking forward to meeting you all.

Big Love

Kim xx

TAPPING TO BOOST SELF LOVE

Self Love is a term that is often talked about but many people still struggle with it. How do you cultivate self love if you've been speaking negatively to yourself for a long time?

This is where tapping is hugely powerful because it helps you to literally change the way you think - transforming your inner narrative from self criticism to self compassion and loving kindness.

• Do you struggle to speak kindly to yourself?

• Do you you find it hard to give yourself a compliment?

• Do you often want to reject the term ‘I love myself?

• Do you struggle to be compassionate to yourself?

• Do you find it hard to say words of loving kindness to yourself?

• Are you often self depricating?

If you answered YES to any of the above then this tapping process is exactly what you need right now! Watch the video above to boost your self love and kick start the path to thinking differently.

For 1:1 support please get in touch kim@happyheads.me I would love to hear from you xx

TAPPING TO NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.”

~Paulo Coelho

Your childhood forms the foundation of your mental health. It creates a blueprint for who you believe you are and how you see the world around you. Some memories will be positive and some will be difficult and challenging. Your inner child is that part of you that for whatever reason maybe didn’t have their needs met as a child.

When we have a strong emotional reaction to something we’re reacting to the present moment because of our past and it’s often your inner child that’s been triggered.

For example, let’s say your boss criticises you for a project you worked really hard on and you feel flooded with emotion - this may be triggering your inner child and your limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’.

You may be able to access some core memories to help understand your emotional reactions but most will be completely unconscious.

“Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future”

No parent is perfect, even the most loving parents make mistakes and of course childhood can be tough in many ways. Nurturing your inner child is a powerful way to bring inner peace to your internal world and give your mental health the boost it needs.

Tapping is a great place to start. Watch the video above to start the healing process.

TAPPING ON BODY POSITIVITY

In a world where we can compare ourselves to others 24/7 it's so easy to speak negatively about your body if it doesn't fit with what you're seeing on the news, in magazines or on social media. Body positivity doesn't always come easy but it's a powerful way to boost your self belief and love your body exactly the way that it is.

Body positivity is less about what you look like and more about how you feel. When you’re mental health is in a good place you can literally view your body in a different way. I want to share a short story with you…

Around 8 years ago my self esteem was really low. I was in the middle of complete burnout in a very toxic workplace and my mental health had taken a sharp and terrifying decline. I had a wedding to go to and tried on a low cut dress. When I looked in the mirror I hated what I saw. I thought the dress made my boobs look tiny, I felt completely unconfident and couldn't imagine ever wearing it.

A year later when I had overcome burnout and transformed my mental health I had another wedding to go to. I got out THE SAME dress and put it on. What I saw was something completely different. Instead of hating what I saw, I liked it. I saw a dress that flattered by body, thought my boobs looked great and felt really confident.

My size and body shape hadn't changed....my mind had! I had been working so much on my mental health that my self esteem and self love had grown - I now viewed my body in a very different way.

I've now had two babies and my body has gone through SO many changes but I love it now more than ever. I appreciate my body for all that it does for me and make a conscious effort to speak kindly to it and myself.

I also now have the BIG responsibility to actively practice self love in front of my children because kids copy behaviour. It's no good me telling my children to love themselves but then speaking negatively about my body in front of them. They won't learn to love themselves that way - in fact the opposite will be true.

My children know that mummy loves her body and that they should love theirs - that is what body positivity is. Loving your body for all that it is and all that it does. Honouring that some days may be difficult and making a conscious effort every day to speak kindly to yourself - especially when little eyes are watching your every move.

Watch this video to see how tapping can help you honour your emotions and start to reframe the way you view your body.

MANIFEST THE LIFE YOU WANT

"A manifestation is something that is put into your physical reality through thought, feelings and beliefs" Law of Attraction

Without consciously realising - we are always manifesting. Every thought you have creates an energy flow within and around your physical being. This energy attracts its likeness. So if you’re thinking “I’m not good enough” then your energy may start to reflect that and it will be harder to attract positive experiences that align to your authentic self.

The opposite experience occurs when you think high-level thoughts like 'I AM good enough’. Your energy will start to exude confidence and positivity and in turn will attract better experiences into your life. Every thought you have informs your energy, and your energy manifests into your experiences so to put it simply - your thoughts and energy create your reality.

Here is the four step process to follow when you manifest your dreams:

Step 1. Let Go Of Resistance

Before you can think about manifesting your dreams, you first need to let go of resistence and self doubt that might be holding you back. These are the limiting, negative beliefs that your brain defaults to when you even begin to think about what you want from your life

Step 2. Set A Goal

The next step is to actually set a goal. What are your biggest dream? What truly makes you happy? It’s much harder to get to a destination if you don’t know where you want to go. If you don’t yet know what you want from your life then think about how you want to FEEL - calm, happy, grounded, confident, empowered…. this is equally as important and can often inform you of your dreams.

Step 3. Learn To Attract Deliberately

You have set your destination, now you have to get there.

You have set your intention and know what you want from the universe, so now you must take action to ensure that your dream is manifested into a reality. If you set your goal and then put it to the back of your mind, it will never become a reality. Remember, you are what you give your attention to. Therefore, you should try to fuel your dream with as much positive attention as possible.

Here are some of the best ways to fuel your dream with positive attention;

• Speak about it

• Dream about it

• Talk about it

• Think about it

• Create a dream board

• Use visualisation

• Use affirmations

• Feel good about it!

Fill your mind with thoughts of you living out your dreams and feel excited about it. This should immediately heighten your positive energy and emit a frequency to the universe that you will want it to match.

Step 4 – Act ‘As If’

When you act, speak, think and feel ‘as if’ you are already living your dreams. The Law Of Attraction can work to match all of the positivity that you are emitting and provide you with more of the same.

For many, acting ‘as if’ can be a great cause of internal conflict. After all, you are acting ‘as if’ you are rich/successful/healthy/happy when your reality may suggest completely otherwise. However, it is important to try and avoid this inner conflict at all costs. Your task is to feel as good as though you are already living your dreams.

So, begin to believe more and allow yourself to feel good knowing that your dreams are already on their way.

Finally – dream big! The bigger your dreams, the more beautiful your reality can become.

Tapping is a powerful tool at helping you manifest the life you want because it enables you to do a number of things:

• Identify what your dreams actually are

• Begin to shift your internal narrative about the dream

• Overcome any self doubt that will be holding you back from manifesting

• Release negative energy in your nervous system that might block your dream

• Put it out into the universe with powerful, spoken affirmations like I AM SUCCESSFUL , I AM HAPPY

Watch the video above to see how you can use tapping to manifest your dreams.

WELLBEING RETREAT - 1 DAY TO GO!

TRANSFORM YOUR MIND, BODY & SOUL…

“The happy heads retreat was the perfect reset button for me. The retreat was a brilliant combination of self help tricks, reflection and goal setting. Kim is a truly wonderful facilitator who draws on her own experiences and struggles to help her clients rationalise and work trough theirs. I would highly reccomend this retreat to anyone, those with specific areas they want to work on, or those who want to book in and just get a life MOT, it’s a fantastic course I would love to do all over again." Liz

Only 5 days until the Happy Heads Wellbeing Retreat begins! It's been specifically designed to help you transform your mental and physical wellbeing enabling you to kick start 2023 feeling calm, grounded and empowered.

"I got so much from the retreat with Kim. I learned some really effective ways to control my demons and make the day-to-day more manageable. And the guided meditations gave me a beautiful introduction to the practice. Kim has the most open, comfortable and kind presence - it was a real joy. Would highly recommend."

Toby

To make it easily manageable the retreat is set across 4 lunch time sessions.

Each Wednesday @12pm there will be a 1.5hr LIVE online workshop that will help you delve deeper into what you really want from the year ahead and overcome any self doubt that may be holding you back. Every workshop includes insight into the brain and topic, breathing techniques, guided meditation and Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping).

4th January - Self Love & Set Intentions

11th January - Overcome Negative Beliefs

18th January - Manifest the Life you Want 

25th January - Step into your Power

"The Happy Head’s retreat came at the best time possible for me. The retreat provided the perfect pause for reflection.I would definitely recommend."

Doula

After the workshops you’ll receive a support email that has all the key insights from what you learnt, a meditation recording for you to use, tapping videos to follow and a weekly (easily doable) practice to help you integrate the tools and techniques into your day. Each one will be recorded so if you miss one you can always catch up.

"That was AMAZING Kim thank you. I cried the whole way through it!"

Rachel

It’s been designed to completely reset your mind, body & soul. Spaces are limited, to book on click the link below or you can get in touch kim@happyheads.me.

The whole retreat is £110, spaces are limited don’t miss out!I can't wait to see you all.

Big Love xx

“I have just finished the Happy Heads Retreat and really cannot recommend it highly enough. As someone with a chronic neurological condition I have suffered with worry, self-doubt and anxiety most of my adult life. Kim delivers the sessions in a very calm and gentle manner and she has such a reassuring way about her which really helped me to believe I could achieve what I wanted to. The retreat left me feeling truly empowered. If you want to make a change in your life then I urge you to try it for yourself."

Vikki

WELLBEING RETREAT - 5 DAYS TO GO!

TRANSFORM YOUR MIND, BODY & SOUL…

“The happy heads retreat was the perfect reset button for me. The retreat was a brilliant combination of self help tricks, reflection and goal setting. Kim is a truly wonderful facilitator who draws on her own experiences and struggles to help her clients rationalise and work trough theirs. I would highly reccomend this retreat to anyone, those with specific areas they want to work on, or those who want to book in and just get a life MOT, it’s a fantastic course I would love to do all over again." Liz

Only 5 days until the Happy Heads Wellbeing Retreat begins! It's been specifically designed to help you transform your mental and physical wellbeing enabling you to kick start 2023 feeling calm, grounded and empowered.

"I got so much from the retreat with Kim. I learned some really effective ways to control my demons and make the day-to-day more manageable. And the guided meditations gave me a beautiful introduction to the practice. Kim has the most open, comfortable and kind presence - it was a real joy. Would highly recommend."

Toby

To make it easily manageable the retreat is set across 4 lunch time sessions.

Each Wednesday @12pm there will be a 1.5hr LIVE workshop that will help you delve deeper into what you really want from the year ahead and overcome any self doubt that may be holding you back. Every workshop includes insight into the brain and topic, breathing techniques, guided meditation and Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping).

4th January - Self Love & Set Intentions

11th January - Overcome Negative Beliefs

18th January - Manifest the Life you Want 

25th January - Step into your Power

"The Happy Head’s retreat came at the best time possible for me. The retreat provided the perfect pause for reflection.I would definitely recommend."

Doula

After the workshops you’ll receive a support email that has all the key insights from what you learnt, a meditation recording for you to use, tapping videos to follow and a weekly (easily doable) practice to help you integrate the tools and techniques into your day. Each one will be recorded so if you miss one you can always catch up.

"That was AMAZING Kim thank you. I cried the whole way through it!"

Rachel

It’s been designed to completely reset your mind, body & soul. Spaces are limited, to book on click the link below or you can get in touch kim@happyheads.me.

The whole retreat is £110, spaces are limited don’t miss out!I can't wait to see you all.

Big Love xx

“I have just finished the Happy Heads Retreat and really cannot recommend it highly enough. As someone with a chronic neurological condition I have suffered with worry, self-doubt and anxiety most of my adult life. Kim delivers the sessions in a very calm and gentle manner and she has such a reassuring way about her which really helped me to believe I could achieve what I wanted to. The retreat left me feeling truly empowered. If you want to make a change in your life then I urge you to try it for yourself."

Vikki

MANIFEST THE LIFE YOU WANT

"A manifestation is something that is put into your physical reality through thought, feelings and beliefs" Law of Attraction

Without consciously realising - we are always manifesting. Every thought you have creates an energy flow within and around your physical being. This energy attracts its likeness. So if you’re thinking “I’m not good enough” then your energy may start to reflect that and it will be harder to attract positive experiences that align to your authentic self.

Watch this video to see how you can use tapping to manifest the life you want and tell the universe your hopes and dreams.

Would you like to try manifesting LIVE with me? Then join the Happy Heads Wellbeing Retreat in January.

HAPPY HEADS WELLBEING RETREAT

The Happy Heads Wellbeing Retreat is officially back and i'm so excited to share it with you! It's been specifically designed to help you transform your mental and physical wellbeing enabling you to kick start the year feeling calm, grounded and empowered.

To make it easily manageable the retreat is set across 4 lunch time sessions.

Each Wednesday @12pm there will be a 1.5hr LIVE workshop that will help you delve deeper into what you really want from the year ahead and overcome any self doubt that may be holding you back. Every workshop includes insight into the brain and topic, breathing techniques, guided meditation and Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping).

4th January - Self Love & Set Intentions

11th January - Overcome Negative Beliefs

18th January - Manifest the Life you Want 

25th January - Step into your Power

After the workshops you’ll receive a support email that has all the key insights from what you learnt, a meditation recording for you to use, tapping videos to follow and a weekly (easily doable) practice to help you integrate the tools and techniques into your day. Each one will be recorded so if you miss one you can always catch up.

It’s been designed to completely reset your mind, body & soul. Spaces are limited, for more information please get in touch kim@happyheads.me xx

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